tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post7963936304626311882..comments2023-08-08T09:27:05.487-04:00Comments on simply said: Anybody up for a Tragicomedy?Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16075495407192340894noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-84626192900301186462007-06-07T08:15:00.000-04:002007-06-07T08:15:00.000-04:00Wow, Cheesemeister! I hope Cie had kept the woman'...Wow, Cheesemeister! I hope Cie had kept the woman's letters to show authorities.Hobbeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17371953652907423093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-37948322202703653842007-02-07T12:15:00.000-05:002007-02-07T12:15:00.000-05:00What a terrible terrible experience to have gone t...What a terrible terrible experience to have gone through. I know the feeling of wanting to strike out and in your case, there was a little more fuel to the fire. You are so right as it is always worse for the children to have to live with such a fear. <br /><br />She should have been jailed for filing a false report (in my mind of justice being carried out).Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16075495407192340894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-11004418903036468782007-02-07T01:07:00.000-05:002007-02-07T01:07:00.000-05:00I once had a vindictive former friend that I had c...I once had a vindictive former friend that I had cut ties with and called the police on because she was sending me abusive mail, the kind with letters and words cut out of newspapers and magazines to form sentences, find out where I had moved and call social services to allege that I was sexually abusing my son. It was all I could do not to go over to her house and beat the living crap out of her. But going to jail wouldn't have accomplished anything. However, she traumatized not only me but my son, who was terrified that he was going to be taken to live in a foster home. He was 11 years old at the time.Cie Cheesemeisterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14871507564733240927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-22862990823121043172007-02-02T20:39:00.000-05:002007-02-02T20:39:00.000-05:00Terry: I'm so glad to see you swoop down and comm...Terry: I'm so glad to see you swoop down and comment then. I've long enjoyed your comments and sense of play at Doug's and a few other places. <br /><br />Oh it's a horror show to have the government walk into your home, no doubt. I always pray that reason prevails but you're so right that feeling that you need to convince them. A funny (not funny) part that I didn't share in the story because I wasn't quite up to this level of humor yet was when Julian walked by as I was talking to them and muttered (as he is want to do) "don't tell the truth" in a singsong voice. I saw the woman's eyes dart. I mean this is a phrase not uttered in our house but I must say wherever he drew that from, he couldn't have tossed it out at a worse time. Well we seem to be putting more distance between us and then. I wish the same for you and your family. Hey Julian and your boyboy are the same age!<br /><br />Goldennib: I know the old "me thinks thou do protesteth..." Blending families can be very difficult. I'm glad it is behind you now, though sorry you had to go through it at all.<br /><br />Dan, Thanks. Each day a little better. Thanks for dropping by.Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16075495407192340894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-22780935876532052612007-02-02T14:39:00.000-05:002007-02-02T14:39:00.000-05:00G, I'm glad to hear that things are getting better...G, I'm glad to hear that things are getting better.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09763751210167358084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-12881812491928527592007-02-02T06:54:00.000-05:002007-02-02T06:54:00.000-05:00Oh, it is scary when the gov comes into your home....Oh, it is scary when the gov comes into your home. My husband is not my daughter's father. We went through a brief thing when she was younger. She told my mother that he hit her. Well, you can imagine. I tried to related the actual circumstances and of course my mother thought I was protecting him to the detriment of my daughter. What a mess.Nessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07779269921583131094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-58464558920860195112007-02-02T00:40:00.000-05:002007-02-02T00:40:00.000-05:00Hello G - I've been a lurker at your place here an...Hello G - I've been a lurker at your place here and there for quite some time... thank you for stopping my place :-) <br /><br />That said, it looks like you have had a very difficult week! Thankfully, I never went through that with my own children (I had three little rugrats) but I have had to deal with it with my now 5 year old grandson. My daughter is divorced from the emotionally disturbed father of my little cute boy boy, but the obsessed father continues to wreak havoc in all of our lives. I remember the first time CPS walked into my house - you described my reaction perfectly with your own experience. The worst of all is that you feel helpless to be able to convince the "nice" lady that it really isn't what it seems. The courts are blind, and the whole thing is purely insane. Hugs.tsduffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06457805824149563737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-63673808208812988892007-02-01T21:52:00.000-05:002007-02-01T21:52:00.000-05:00Quilldancer, sadly I think that is often the case....Quilldancer, sadly I think that is often the case. Thank you for dropping by.Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16075495407192340894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-40555729320975675572007-02-01T16:35:00.000-05:002007-02-01T16:35:00.000-05:00The innocent parents get caught up in crap like th...The innocent parents get caught up in crap like this. The abusing parents get away with it because they know how to work the system.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-34806793155676169922007-02-01T14:23:00.000-05:002007-02-01T14:23:00.000-05:00At its worst Al. Thanks for dropping by.At its worst Al. Thanks for dropping by.Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16075495407192340894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-1027809083382746152007-02-01T09:56:00.000-05:002007-02-01T09:56:00.000-05:00Wow, G. Glad everything's OK, but, wow, 21st Centu...Wow, G. Glad everything's OK, but, wow, 21st Century parenting, huh?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-60520294081701674292007-02-01T09:45:00.000-05:002007-02-01T09:45:00.000-05:00Thanks Kyah. Seriously it is such a societal prob...Thanks Kyah. Seriously it is such a societal problem and this is not the answer. Children continue to be abused but they are in neighborhoods where their voices aren't as readily heard and the caseload is a bit heavier. I do hope that at least one child is saved by these means - I really do. My friend is an attorney for ACS and I have somewhat of a different perspective from hearing her side of things. <br /><br />As for your carotid, with all that fur around it, you'd be a tough target! <br /><br />Ann: I would have been, if I weren't so busy passing out. Julian above all else is fine and living his life with zeal albeit with another bump. Each day gets a little easier but it still stings. You know I wouldn't feel so bad (perhaps) if I didn't know that society is screwed up and this is not going to rectify it. We have whole communities where children don't have a home that is a warm and comforting nest and that just breaks my heart. Thank you so much for your kind words, Ann, they mean a lot. XOX<br /><br /><br />Copyright (may I call you Carol): Well thank you (although it didn't feel very terrific for me, I'll take that as the compliment that you intended it to be). Thanks for your visit and welcome.Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16075495407192340894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-90621024593798361462007-01-31T19:55:00.000-05:002007-01-31T19:55:00.000-05:00What a terrific story...I know it's true and in so...What a terrific story...I know it's true and in some ways sad of course, but you tell it with lots of flare. I can picture each scene.Copyright 2010 by Carol Scibellihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15360376185565606840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-20565866176807197852007-01-31T14:47:00.000-05:002007-01-31T14:47:00.000-05:00g... I can't believe what I've just read. Bureau...g... I can't believe what I've just read. Bureaucracy gone crazy. To put it one way, I would have been well and truly sh***ing myself. It's the same in this country when children end up in the ER. My 2nd son was always there he was so accident prone.<br /><br />I do hope you are sleeping now and putting this nightmare behind you. <br /><br />You and your husband must be going through hell. How is Julian now? <br /><br />In one way it's great that there are people on alert, but look at the number of real tragedies that slip through the net with heartbreaking results.annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10520900940014508061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-89308162040685944982007-01-30T23:14:00.000-05:002007-01-30T23:14:00.000-05:00aw, that must have been very, very upsetting. I'd ...aw, that must have been very, very upsetting. I'd feel sick about it. <br /><br />On the other hand, I just have to say 'wow' for CPS. If that kind of diligence can make a difference, I'm glad they are doing it. Unfortunately, my inner cynic says there are probably lots of little kids getting beaten and abused but they are just not around adults who would notice, care, or bother to get involved. <br /><br />Big hugs to you and the family G. Oh, and stay away from my neck will ya'. I know that big juicy carotid is pretty appealing to you types but I'm not donating.Kyahgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04496268340516243071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-83670815623979721032007-01-30T20:22:00.000-05:002007-01-30T20:22:00.000-05:00Neva: Yes you are and I so appreciated your suppo...Neva: Yes you are and I so appreciated your support early on, you'll never quite know. Thanks for all of your sharing and support. Oh how I would love to - we could maybe use the dogs to herd up ChooChoo and keep him on his toes (no wait actually we don't want him back up on his toes, he did the toe walking stint for a while). That does sound like a perfect win/win situation. Here's to the strength it takes to be a parent. L'chaim. XOX<br /><br />Dan, Thanks. Yeah each day things are getting easier. Thankfully our pediatrician is there to support us and feels very badly about what we went and are going through. YOu know we did feel as if we were in some communist state. It is so intrusive to have the government come into your home. You can't imagine. Thanks for dropping in.<br /><br />Joel: thank you. I so appreciate your stab at truthiness. If you weren't going through your own things as parents right now, I'd almost buy the encouraging words of how things get easier :) Just the same, your support is felt. So thanks.<br /><br />Somewhere Joe, it is and I'm beginning to breathe a little easier each day. I couldn't even think straight for a couple of days after. Thanks you so much for your kind words.<br /><br />Brian: Thank you Brian. It's very difficult to ever answer such a knock at your door. But we have so much support and our pediatrician has all our visits and concerns well documented. In fact, they never even contacted her which pretty much says they didn't find merit to the charge. So yeah, each day gets a bit easier. Thanks a lot for dropping in.<br /><br />Pinky: Thanks so much for your thoughts, prayers and support. You're very sweet and I do appreciate it. XOXGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16075495407192340894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-82336489752084789582007-01-30T18:27:00.000-05:002007-01-30T18:27:00.000-05:00Man, that is terrible! My heart goes out to you an...Man, that is terrible! My heart goes out to you and your family. You are right, there are so many homes that should be investigated that aren't and that's sad.<br /><br />I'll add you guys to my prayers and hope that things look up for you. You have a beautiful family that you love and care for and it would be hard for someone not to see that. HUGS and tons of love and support!!Carrie https://www.blogger.com/profile/11950391138736178716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-4049009657921538412007-01-30T15:54:00.000-05:002007-01-30T15:54:00.000-05:00(((GQ))) and family. I'm sorry you have gone throu...(((GQ))) and family. I'm sorry you have gone through this. The laws have gotten to the point that all people that have contact with children have to report anything they see or hear. If they don't, the provider could be charged. It's a bad situation all around.<br /><br />I hope you are coping better today.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-55894752797689146912007-01-30T11:20:00.000-05:002007-01-30T11:20:00.000-05:00G, being falsely accused is bad enough. Accused of...G, being falsely accused is bad enough. Accused of something that is at cross purposes to your very heart is awful. I hope your good report will innoculated you and yours against future misunderstandings. That's the up side.Joe Jubinvillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09489419756833657839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-45836442583459903822007-01-30T09:20:00.000-05:002007-01-30T09:20:00.000-05:00See Neva comment above...
We know your pain - tho...See Neva comment above...<br /><br />We know your pain - thoughts & prayers are with you.<br /><br />The good news is it does get easier.<br /><br /><i>What? Don't lie to our friend? But I'm trying to make her feel better. Oh, okay.</i><br /><br />The good news is...ummmm<br /><br />it builds character?...never a dull moment?...keeps you on your toes?<br /><br /><i>Well yes that is the best I can do on short notice...wasn't prepared for all this truthiness.</i><br /><br />Let me think on this a bit and get back to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-57409214157355423302007-01-30T08:13:00.000-05:002007-01-30T08:13:00.000-05:00I pray that common sense will prevail. I also know...<i>I pray that common sense will prevail. I also know I wouldn't think twice about relocating to another country if push comes to shove.</i><br /><br />Gosh, while I don't have kids myself, I can certainly understand your frustration. This is society run amuck. Unlike you I <i>can't</i> intellectualize this because there wasn't any pattern established.<br /><br />The same happened to my friend at work some years ago. His daughter, was climbing a tree and feel a short distance and broke her arm. It heeled, she did something else and broke the arm again. The overly-concerned doctor (who knew my friend well enough to know he wasn't a child beater) reported my friend and the social workers came to visit. Amazing!<br /><br />I think of Soviet Russia or Nazi Germay when I hear tales like this.<br /><br />Hang in there my friend, OK? I know that's easier said than done. When you begin thinking about it, try not to follow the thought.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09763751210167358084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-55140050580048617982007-01-29T23:33:00.000-05:002007-01-29T23:33:00.000-05:00i believe i'm already on record with my thoughts o...i believe i'm already on record with my thoughts on this (which will be on sale in the mezzanine at the end of the show). <br /><br />after being confronted by the Health Department when our 11 month old baby developed intestional Salmonella (What? you can't cut up snacks on a board after chopping a raw chicken? who knew?? well, i did -- apparently that sitter who cared for my kid during the day did *not*), and our own "how the hell did you get that giant bump on your forehead?" question by school officials to our youngest boy, after he'd slammed into the corner of his night stand, i believe i know what it's like to have "the man" (or "the well-meaning woman") come knocking on your door. and it absolutely is a perfect example of adding "insult to injury", first to see your child sick/injured, then to be accused of causing it. oy. i am so so so sorry you had to go through all that. <br /><br />my solution for the Scissorhands family? MOVE YOUR HAPPY LITTLE ACCIDENT-PRONE ASSES TO STAMFORD. i'll take care of you! besides, then you'll be around to help me cope with my "yes i've abused drugs for awhile but now i'm okay please let me move back home" situation. see?? win-win.<br /><br />xoxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-67745158433684019662007-01-29T23:04:00.000-05:002007-01-29T23:04:00.000-05:00Doug: Thanks. I know that that's the case. It i...Doug: Thanks. I know that that's the case. It is a bitter pill but I understand. <br /><br />Actonbell: Thanks. It just takes time to heal, but it's coming along nicely. Those poor parents. As a parent, we can become irrational with fear at what people might think. I never thought that way up until now, I always knew that Julian's pediatrician understood his difficulties and knew we were doing our best for him and that we and his team of therapists were all in this together. Oh well, I understand the rationale. It is difficult to fully accept though. <br /><br />Thank you both so much for dropping by, it means a great deal to me.Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16075495407192340894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-78798208810649030472007-01-29T22:58:00.000-05:002007-01-29T22:58:00.000-05:00Cindra: My hopes are what you've typed. It's an o...Cindra: My hopes are what you've typed. It's an overworked system that is for sure. My very good friend is an attorney for ACS so I am in good hands with her on my side. It's just a nightmare, I can't look at Julian without thinking of this. But we're hanging in. Thanks friend. xox<br /><br />cj's mom: It's so so very nice to meet you and thank you for stopping by to help assuage my fears. Haha, cj never let on what a rascal she was. She does seem pretty active though so I can see where she would have had your hair turning gray a bit early. <br /><br />Yes if only workers knew what it was to raise a child for whom you're forced to ask the question "just how many times can a kid fall?". We never wanted to have him wear a helmet because it was so restrictive and in our opinions, he did not need it. I don't regret that decision. <br /><br />I know the details of this day will stay with me for a lifetime down to the soup that was waiting for us on the table when they came to our door. Thank you so much for stopping by, it means more to me than you could imagine. You have a wonderful daughter too (daredevil and all). <br /><br /><br /><br />Mutha, Yes I am sure if I took that RealAge test floating around, I'd be like 87. I'm just now breathing, albeit a bit shallow. You know I can intellectually sort this all out quite neatly then I get another irrational paniced moment and I'm off to the races in my head. But thanks for the reminder and for droppin by.Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16075495407192340894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28673298.post-20551235574348364342007-01-29T22:31:00.000-05:002007-01-29T22:31:00.000-05:00My Gosh G -- so sorry you had to go through what I...My Gosh G -- so sorry you had to go through what I am sure shaved some time off your life-expectancy. I was investigated a couple of times over the years that I've worked with abused children. They were "retaliation filings," parents and even case workers filing against me for filing on behalf of their children. So -- I can honestly say, it sucks to be the professional agonizing over one's "Mandated Reporter" status too. But I am a mom as well -- and I know that both fight and flight would occur to me if I found myself put in that position. Breathe. Breathe. Breathe.Muthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03172749181642285989noreply@blogger.com